There are so many things I wish I would have known growing up. Like, things that didn’t matter and things (.. eh hem PEOPLE ) that I didn’t need to waste my time on. Things that I wish someone had told me
So, I’ve decided to get in the time warp machine and give young me some much needed advice.
Dear teenage self,
Ditch the boys. They are all jerks. That’s the sad but COMPLETE HONEST truth. They will make you cry. They will break your heart. Either way stay clear of the idiots or have your heart broke. And seriously, I wish I would have chosen the first option. So, choose the first option. You’ll be much happier. And then you get to do more things with your friends. Like… GO TO THE DANCE you never went to because d-bag didn’t want to go.
In the event that you choose the latter: girl, pick up the pieces of that broken heart, go over to your craft box, and hot glue them together. Stand up and dust that sh*t off. I know it hurts. I know it sucks. But you know what, it’s not the end of the world. It’s the end of a relationship with a loser. Life will go on. You will be stronger. I PROMISE. And please, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM.
Take all four years of Spanish. Not just three and then skip out senior year because you want to go to Starbucks before practice. ALL FOUR. and pay attention because guess what?! You will get a job over a person that only knows English and you’ll get paid more too. Seems funny huh? How a FREE class that you HAVE to sit in will make you MORE money. So please, take the damn class. Become fluent in it. And don’t forget it.
NO. You DON’T know everything. Sorry Charlie. No matter how much you think you know, subtract that by 68 then divide that by 73042, and THAT’S how much you know. Almost nothing.
Never take summer vacation for granted. Eat that sh*t up. Bask in every second of it. Never in your life will you get that much freedom again. EVER. No rules, no job, no bills. Just freedom and a half melted popsicle. Enjoy it.
Dear 20 something self,
I told you he was a loser. Get your pieces together and use super glue this time. Keep going and don’t look back. He wasn’t worth your time then, and he’s damn sure not worth your time now. One day, when least expect it, someone will walk into your life and make you realize what it feels like to be truly in love. Until then, work on yourself and be genuinely happy.
Focus on school. Take a full load of classes every semester. Even if that means you have to work less, education is more important. Try your hardest. TAKE THE FINANCE CLASS. Trust me, because we need to work on our finances. Actually, take classes in a variety of different majors, not just the one you THINK you’re majoring in. Buy a parking pass before school even starts. Campus police doesn’t give a rats a** about your teeny weeny bank account. They’ll write you a ticket every, damn, day. Bastards. Join more clubs, it will look great on your resume. Get to campus 15 minutes earlier. ALWAYS. Finding parking sucks, its sucks even more when you’re late.
When you’re not slaving away over 24 texts books, GO ON A ROAD TRIP. Get your girls and a few bottles of wine, and just GO. Anywhere. The beach, the mountains. Go. Be in the moment with your best friends. Drunk giggles are the best giggles and they are even better with the girls you love most. Take pictures. Not just the ones that will go on social media. Print them out and put them in a book. You’ll find them someday and be happy you did so.
DON’T GET THE CREDIT CARD. No matter how cute Victoria’s Secret’s newest sweatshirt is, ITS NOT WORTH IT. If you don’t have the money for it now, you don’t need the damn thing. So no. NO NO NO NO. No credit cards. Ever. Not even an emergency one. Because somehow, Starbucks will become an emergency. Followed by Target and Bath & Body Works. You’ll thank me later.
When that “one day” comes that I was telling you about, the day the person your soul matches walks into your life. You’ll know. Your whole world will shake. You will feel it. It will be different this time. He is different this time.
Take your time doing whatever it is that you’re doing. There is no rush. You are young and stupid and still making mistakes and that’s okay.
Be comfortable in your own skin. Have confidence. Take chances. Be spontaneous. Be you.
Recently, I’ve truly come to the realization that everything happens for a reason. And I wish I came to that conclusion earlier. It would have saved me a lot of heart ache and time.
Everything in my past has shaped me into the woman I am today and I don’t regret any of it. Although, I do wish I had a secret letter telling me that everything was going to be all right.
Down the road I’ll add to this letter. Things I wish I knew now, 10 years from now. Until then, I’ll keep making mistakes.